YOUTH
and
SPOUSE SELECTION
انتخاب همسر ترجمه انگلیسی


Mazaheri, Ali Akbar, 1915 -

Youth and Spouse Selection/ by Ali Akbar Mazaheri; translated by Ali Javed Iqbal Qazilbash.- Qum: Ansariyan, 2005.

310 P.
 ISBN: 964-438-686-8
1. Marriage - Islam.                                2.Meta Selection-Religious
aspects - Islam.                                      I. Qazilbash, javed Iqbal, Tr.
II. Title.
297.642                                                 BP253.2.M3Y6

Author: Ali Akbar Mazaheri
Translator: Javed Iqbal Qazilbash
Publisher: Ansariyan Publications – Qum
First Edition 1374 – 1416 - 1995
Second Edition 1384 – 1426 - 2005
Thamin Al-a'immah press
Number of pages: 312
Copies: 1000
Size: 143 x 205 mm
ISBN: 964-438-686-8
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TABLE OF CONTENTS

 

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PREFACE

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FOREWORD

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INTRODUCTION

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CHAPTER ONE: EXCELLENCE OF MARRIAGE

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MAN AND WOMAN: ENHANCEMENTS OF EACH OTHER
SPOUSE: A BIG BLESSING FROM ALLAH
MARRIAGE PHILOSOPHY
SPOUSE: THE SIGN OF ALLAH’S WISDOM AND SOURCE OF MAN’S COMFORT
MARRIAGE: THE IMPROVER OF THE VALUE OF MAN’S PRACTICES
THE LOVELEST CENTER TO ALLAH
THE MEDAL OF HONOUR

 
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CHAPTER TWO: WHEN MUST WE MARRY?

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THE PUBERTY AGE
MARRIAGE: A MEDIUM OF REACHING ALLAH
THE TIME OF SEXUAL AND MENTAL MATURITY
THE VIEW OF AN EXPERT
DISCUSSION WITH A FRIEND IN THIS CONNECTION
IT IS WRONG TO DASH INTO A ROCK

 

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CHAPTER THREE: THE MERITS OF TIMELY A MARRIAGE AND DEMERITS OF ITS DELAY

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SECURING AND STRENGTHENING TRUE FAITH AND SPIRITUALISM
A SAD SPECIMEN:
AN AUSPICIOUS AND BLESSED SPECIMEN:
BENEFITTING AND ENJOYING A SWEET AND CHEERFUL YOUTH
A SORROWFUL SPECIMEN
REMAINING PURE FROM CORRUPTION AND SEXUAL DEVIATIONS
SAFETY FROM NERVOUS AND SPIRITUAL, DISEASES

 

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CHAPTER FOUR(1/2): DIFFICULTIES AND HURDLES OF MARRIAGE

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DIFFICULTIES: REAL OR ARTIFICIAL?
FIRST DIFFICULTY ECONOMIC AND MONETARY DIFFICULTY
SOLUTIONS: ALLAH’S SUPPORTS
THE GOOD NEWS GIVEN BY THE LEADERS OF ISLAM
A BEAUTIFUL EXAMPLE
NEW HORIZONS
JOB FACILITIES AND ALLOWANCES
ATTAINING STATUS AND MORE REVERENCE
SPECIAL MARRIAGE LOANS
DECREASING THE CEREMONIES AND ADDITIONAL EXPENSES
A BEAUTIFUL SPECIMEN OF SIMPLE LIVING
SECOND DIFFICULTY: CONTINUATION OF EDUCATION
THE REAL PROBLEM:
CONTEMPLATING THIS DIFFICULTY
SOLUTIONS TO THIS PROBLEM
TO DRIVE THE THOUGHT OUT OF ONE’S MIND THAT EDUCATION IS NOT HARMONIOUS WITH MARRIAGE.
THE RELIGIOUS AND LAWFUL ENGAGEMENT
PARENTS’ HELP TO THE SON AND THE DAUGHTER
BIRTH CONTROL
CONTENTMENT
COOPERATION
A WORD WITH PARENTS IN THIS REGARD

 

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CHAPTER FOUR(2/2): THIRD DIFFICULTY: DIFFICULTY IN SPOUSE SELECTION

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THIRD DIFFICULTY: DIFFICULTY IN SPOUSE SELECTION
THE SOLUTION
FOURTH DIFFICULTY: HURDLES AND HINDRANCES OF THE ELDERS AND FRIENDS
A GLOOMY AND SAD EXAMPLE FOR YOUR ATTENTION
A CURIOUS AND STRANGE EXAMPLE
AN AGONISTIC LETTER
SOLUTIONS
DIRECT NEGOTIATIONS WITH THE HURDLE CREATORS AND FAULT-FINDERS
APPOINTING A MEDIATOR
A SPECIMEN FOR YOUR ATTENTION
FIFTHDIFFICULTY: MILITARY SERVICE
SOLUTIONS: LONG TERM SOLUTION
SHORT TERM SOLUTION 1 RELIGIOUS AND LEGAL ENGAGEMENT
STAYING IN THE HOUSE OF ONE’S IN LAWS
PARENTS’ HELP
SIXTH DIFFICULTY: PRESENCE OF OLDER BROTHERS AND SISTERS
SOLUTION TO THIS PROBLEM
SEVENTH DIFFICULTY: DWELLING
SOLUTION
LONG TERM
SHORT TERM SOLUTION
TEMPORARILY STAYING AT THE PARENTS’ HOME
RENTING A HOUSE
EIGHTH DIFFICULTY: INABILITY OF THE YOUTH TO MANAGE AND RUN THEIR LIFE
NINTH DIFFICULTY: NATURAL DIFFICULTIES
PHILOSOPHY OF THESE DIFFICULTIES AND HARDSHIPS
A WORD WITH THE ELDERS
A SOCIAL DISEASE

 

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CHAPTER FIVE(1/2): CRITERIA OF SPOUSE SELECTION

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WHOM MAY WE SELECT AS A SPOUSE?
SUBTLETY!
SUBTLETY IN SELECTION, SMOOTHNESS IN MARRIAGE
CRITERIA OF SPOUSE SELECTION
RELIGIOUSNESS
THE FRUITS OF RELIGIOUSNESS
WHAT SHOULD THE IRRELIGIOUS YOUTHS DO?
MORALITY
STATUS OF MORALITY IN SPOUSE SELECTION
SPECIMENS OF DECENT AND INDECENT BEHAVIOUR
THIRD: NOBILITY OF THE FAMILY
FOURTH: REASON (BASIC CONDITION FOR BOTH PARTIES)
MEANING OF REASON AS DEFINED BY IMAM SADIQ
AN UNPLEASANT SPECIMEN
A MORE UNPLEASANT SPECIMEN
FIFTH: PHYSICAL AND MENTAL HEALTH
CONSIDER THIS MISERABLE SPECIMEN:
SIXTH: BEAUTY
SEVENTH: KNOWLEDGE AND EDUCATION
EIGHTH: BEING EACH OTHER’S MATCH

 

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CHAPTER FIVE(2/2):SALIENT POINTS OF INCO-ORDINATION OF ISMAIL AND SAFOORA

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SALIENT POINTS OF INCO-ORDINATION OF ISMAIL AND SAFOORA
REFUTING A DOUBT
CONDITIONS OF COMPATABILITY
DISCUSSING THE FUTURE AIMS AND PROBABLE CHANGES BEFORE MARRIAGE
AVOIDING NEGLIGENCE
LOVE; THE PIVOT OF LIFE
KINDS OF LOVE
LASTING LOVE
A MAGNANIMOUS AND BEAUTIFUL SPECIMEN:
MUTUAL LOVE
A NET OF DECEPTION
AN ARTIFICIAL LIFE IS UNENDURABLE

 

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CHAPTER SIX(1/2): SELECTION

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TIME TO ACT
SELECTION
PERFECT RECOGNITION
WAYS OF SPOUSE SELECTION
FIRST WAY: SEEKING ADVICE
A SAGE GUIDE
THE QUALITIES OF AN ADVISER
SECOND WAY: MEDIATOR AND INTRODUCER
KINDS OF MEDIATORS
THIRD WAY: INVESTIGATION
ACCEPTANCE OR REJECTION NEEDS LOGIC
WAYS OF INVESTIGATION AND HOW TO CROSS THEM
FOURTH WAY: SENDING A MESSENGER
PECULIARITIES OF A MESSENGER
FIFTH WAY: WRITING A LETTER
SIXTH WAY: PHOTOGRAPH
SEVENTH WAY: DIRECT TALK
EIGHTH WAY: SEEING EACH OTHER

 

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CHAPTER SIX(2/2):PROTECTING THE GIRL’S DIGNITY

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PROTECTING THE GIRL’S DIGNITY
OMENATION
KINDS OF OMENATION
THE CORRECT USE OF OMENATION
FATE!
CROSSING THE SLIPPERY ROAD! COMPLETE CAUTION AT EVERY STEP
SELF-SACRIFICIAL MARRIAGES
REMORSE BEFORE MARRIAGE
THE CAUSE OF THIS REMORSE
FAMILY MARRIAGES
CHILDREN’S ENGAGEMENT

 

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CHAPTER SEVEN: ENGAGEMENT PERIOD

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THE NEED OF AN ENGAGEMENT PERIOD
THE VALUE OF THE ENGAGEMENT PERIOD
THE LENGTH OF THE ENGAGEMENT PERIOD
LEAVE THE REAL MARRIAGE FOR THE MARRIAGE NIGHT